Fat experiences

We come from two totally different angles. I'm a feeder/encourager who has worked hard at having his wife accept she's gained and is gaining weight.

One of the things I do to encourage that behavior is treat her like a queen. She is my all. Although I like to post her and on Curvage for the community, for the feeling of sharing this stuff, I'm not really into looking at other "models" precisely because if eve she would find out it would make her feel kind of insecure, not enough, or second rate.

So for me your feelings are what's normal, what's to be expected.

Also, looking at your profile you seem to feel you're not gaining enough but 232 lbs is a lot, especially at your height. You're officially Obese Class 2; you did very nice work on your body.

Empower yourself girl.

Maybe talk about it with him? Explain how it makes you feel.

If it seems to turn into a whole drama but you prefer staying with him you can turn it into a game; "how about every week/month/whatever I gain at least 1 lbs you look only at me?"

I don't find that very nice of him.

I understand he likes to see other gain as well. But if he understands how this makes you feel and then says "that's all well and good if it makes you feel that way but all I want is to also see others gain", to me that's not very loving towards you.

In my mind he should be counting himself lucky he has someone like you AND that you want to gain.

I'm not sure it's you who should have to be finding a way how to deal with these feelings instead of him.